‘Mostly Metal Dad?’ Whaddya mean, ‘Mostly Metal?’
I used to consider myself pretty metal. I’ve been playing metal for years and have been listening to it for even longer. But being metal takes a lot of work. I had it in my blackest of hearts, but I never committed to looking the part. My early attempts at world domination with my band eventually gave way to falling in love, earning a degree, and other totally un-metal pursuits. The metal me went on the backburner.
And then my wife and I had a kid.
Suddenly, I’m feeling a reignited interest in metal; the fires in the forge have been re-lit. There’s a crossover between being metal and being a dad that I didn’t know existed, and the more I learn about it, the more I understand that being one has an influence on the other. Like how Pantera’s “Walk” is a great tempo for rocking my baby to sleep, or how the dreary, lo-fi droning of black metal actually makes for some decent white noise. Or how my daughter’s learning to smile is somehow more amazing to me than any live show I’ve seen.
I want to know what else metal and parenting have in common, these two things that have become more important to me that anything else in the world. I didn’t expect any of this, but I’m learning a lot about being a Mostly Metal Dad. And maybe you can learn something, too.
Because being ‘mostly metal’ is fine with me, so long as I get to be a dad for the rest.
I’m Eric Seal, the Mostly Metal Dad and drummer for melodic death metal band Mysidia. The first metal CD I ever bought was Rob Zombie’s Hellbilly Deluxe. The booklet art scared me so badly I couldn’t listen to it for a month. I cried when my daughter was born and it was really rather sweet.
This blog started off about metal and babies, then took a turn into being mostly about babies, and now it’s somewhere in between. Or either/or. Tune in for baby stuff, music reviews, and general metal stuff.